Song of Mana

wizard
· n.
1 a man age 30 years and above with no experience in romance.

monk
· n.
1 a man living under the vow of chasity


Okay, now that I have defined the two internet lingo that I will be using, I will continue with my story of a real-life situation: several days ago, during an outing, two of my friends who truly cared for me had advised me from turning into a wizard or a monk(Funny how that statement fits perfectly in an MMORPG setting).

When asked of why I am still single, I answered that I have yet to figure out how to engage in a romantic relationship without a solution to some of the issues that I would face in such a relationship. For example, I visioned that I require lots of time in solitude to do the things that I like, such as reading and playing video games. Unless my romance partner share the same interests, I imagined that it will be difficult for me to part time from these hobbies and spend it with my girlfriend (if I ever have one).

How can one find the balance between solitude and companionship? That is the great question that has been bugging me for years?

My friends' advice on this issue is to get a girlfriend and try the relationship out first. Should there be any incompatibility that you two could not resolve or compromise, then end the relationship and find another one who would accommodate you and your needs. To me, this sounds like a multi-run trial-and-error method which I think would cause much grief and sadness to those involved. I was pretty much against to this method, not until I am resolved to give up more of my personal space.